It's the 1st of August and I'm so happy.
Firstly because I
have just got my first ever proper pay check (shopping time!!), and secondly, I'm so proud
and happy that there is one month less until I see my boyfriend again.
As I mentioned in my previous post, my boyfriend moved
to Australia for 5 months to partake in a study abroad. Having experienced long
distance with him before, I live in Ireland and he lives in London so every
Summer, Christmas etc we are apart, I was semi prepared for what's to come. But
this time, when he is halfway across the world and I know, no matter what, I
can't see him until December has made things a lot different.
Whether you are about to experience it, currently
experiencing it, or have in the past, the hardness of long distance
relationships cannot be ignored. I want to share with you my own personal story
of my LDR. My experiences, thoughts and advice, and I would love for you to
share yours with me too.
I hope this brings you comfort in some way...
If you are and your partner are willing to go through a long distance relationship, it is clear you love each other. So in terms of breaking up, love is never a problem, however, growing apart is.
I can't stress enough how important communication is. It seems like an obvious one, and it is, but the power of it cannot be underestimated.
In LDR's it's very likely your life is a lot different without your partner, whether it be because you have adjusted to life without them, or new experiences and opportunities have been thrown your way. Therefore, it is so important to ensure you both communicate so you are still part of each other's lives and you don't grow apart. Whether it be messaging or sending photos on Whatsapp, writing letter or emails, or Skyping, it is so important to always make time for one another.
Whether you live together or thousands of miles apart fights are inevitable. There will be hard days, but
it's about working through the fights and not giving up because you know when
you see them again in the future it will all be worth it. It's emotionally
frustrating you can't be together, you ask 'Why me?', and this frustration can
cause a lot of fights. To put it simply, sometimes when we are fighting with
our loved one, in a LDR we feel the closest to them because fights show you care
about each other. But this isn't a healthy way to deal with things. Although
fighting to a degree is normal, petty fights are not. Instead, turn your emotional
frustration to a simple message saying 'I miss you' or a quick Skype session
just to hear their voice again.
It's also still so very important to celebrate the milestones and be proud of what you are trying! I
know a lot of couples who break up when they move to another city 1 hour down
the road. I'm not saying the relationship will work out, but I think the fact
you are trying a LDR is amazing! The love you both must have for each other
really shows so never stop celebrating this.
I'm not sure how many of these posts I will do, let me know
if you would like more on my journey. Also I think it is important to note that
I am 100% not saying follow these tips to a perfect LDR. Every experience is
different, and this is mine. I really want mine to work, but in reality, it may
not, so talking to you guys about this is a big deal. Whether my LDR works or
not, I am so proud at 20 years old I have met someone who is willing to wait
for me and me them.
Let me know if you enjoyed this post or have any thoughts,
comment, tweet, DM or share this post.
And to all you who are in a LDR right now, be proud because what you are doing is amazing.
And to all you who are in a LDR right now, be proud because what you are doing is amazing.
Much love,
Those Young Years x
@thoseyoungyears
Those Young Years x
@thoseyoungyears